Penis Size Paranoia Prevails

Common among the questions asked by male participants of the 2009 Great South African Sex Survey was learning how to make a cock thicker or longer.

No amount of reassurance that women have other romantic priorities seems to ever diminish penis size paranoia.

The mystery is why the interest in a larger penis endures in men. You’d think there were some long tradition of women throughout history shrieking from the riverbanks, “if only my man were bigger, I’d be happier!” It just isn’t true. Women seem to want many things - more kissing, cuddling, and cunnilingus, among others - but an extra inch here or there is not the dream of most women.

Is it really just a bigger cock they want?

The desire for a bigger penis, I think, is really the desire for other things - relaxation, more confidence, disinhibition, an insight into women, even wisdom. Unlike penis size, those things are actually available. But a man has to be willing to learn a few things about himself and eroticism, and let go of some beliefs, attitudes, misinformation, and, well, a certain unhelpful attitude.

A bigger penis is an imaginary magic bullet. And men who are lazy in their relationships rarely learn to improve but instead keep wishing for an easy fix.

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