Husbands Who Don't Satisfy Their Wives

There’s been lots of happy talk about how happy married women are with their sex lives. Maybe it is just talk. Recent research paints a less cheery picture.

In my experience, women are only too busy or too tired for sex because of one reason: they aren’t getting an orgasm out of it, or they don’t fancy the person they’re doing it with; both, probably, as one thing tends to lead to the other. The National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles claims that 55 per cent of married women suffer from sexual boredom. But put Sean Paul or Gordon Brown in bed with these women who are allegedly too busy and tired for sex, and my betting is that they’re going to be singing a different song — one that goes, roughly, “Yes, YES, YES!”.

Ah, grandes dames: the nipples go south, the nose goes north

However, Patti Britton, president-elect of the American Association of Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists, felt that the fact that married women seemed to have more sexual problems might stem from the fact that men are reluctant to admit they might be facing sexual problems because they feel it would undermine their masculinity. “Women tend to be more vocal in expressing their sexual concerns. Men tend to carry a lot more shame about their sexual prowess. Married men may not want to acknowledge the problem. If they speak up, they fear the sex may disappear or the frequency decline. It would be perceived as complaining,” she said.

Married women’s sexual lives not happy enough