Getting Her to Experiment With Kinky Sex
» Advice (often bad)
I know Tom from usenet discussion groups (aka Google Groups). I’m glad he started blogging.
This is from an essay of Tom’s addressing a common question: how do I get my wife/girlfriend to experiment with non-traditional sexuality:
First of all, if you are already having a problem in your relationship, then understand that bringing up a kinky desire is not the way to start improving your emotional intimacy. If your wife won’t even discuss sex, let alone your kinks, then you have a serious communication problem that you need to solve before you move on to other things, be it chastity or bondage or golden showers. Until the both of you are talking to each other, you won’t “convince” her of anything, except that you’re being insensitive.
